Hey, has everyone seen the hubbub about James Frey’s book “A Million Little Pieces”? Let me give you a quick synopsis if you haven’t already seen all of the press he’s been getting on damn near every single news network over the last few weeks.
James Frey was an incredibly sad addict when he was 20 or so (he’s my age…32) and when he hit rock bottom, he went to a treatment facility and after 6 dramatic weeks, he was released and changed his life…forever. His story was written and at one point, Oprah made the book part of her book club. A few of the details in his story have been found to be a bit embellished but 99% of it has checked out and rings true. The story is captivating and it was all I could do to not read it in one day last month. (before all of the horrible press)
Anyway, James Frey is an amazing survivor, he tells an important story and I think the press he’s been getting is absolutely offensive to see and completely ignorant. The most important part of his story was his experience in the treatment center. Thats the part that helps people.
Anyway, this is the kind of thing that scares me. I get email daily that supports me, but I also get email and comments daily that call me a bold face liar. One man who has a website about having a brain disorder read my story and commented that “Although those camps were bad, this is obviously a work of fiction.”
Ok, so I’ve written the rest of my story and plan on posting it this week. Now I’m freaked out about the press/sharks/haters.
What are your thoughts? Anyone?
Thanks guys. Miss you all! I’m back!
~ Alli
UPDATE!!!:::
(the chick with a baby
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BOY
in her pregnant belly)
…darn ultrasounds…now they say its a boy…who’da thunk??????
By the way, I saw now that Oprah has rescinded her support of Frey. Listen, I don’t “need” the approval (as some of the commenters remarked) so much as I wanted your honest opinions as I care about that. I have a family, a job, a new baby on the way and a very very very delicate relationship with my parents right now (its the best we’ve ever been) and I was simply wondering what you guys thought. I don’t want to throw my story out there so that my kids have to watch their mother go through scrutiny like that. This book isn’t my goal in life…the story getting told is all I ever wanted…whether it be in a published work or around a camp fire with my closest friends.
Thank you all for your comments…I read them all before approval. You guys are what keeps me strong.
Lisa Says:
January 17th, 2006 at 6:30 pmVisit Lisa
First, congratulations on the baby GIRL!!!! So exciting!!! Secondly, this is YOUR site. This is YOUR story. It’s YOUR life, YOUR past, you get the picture. Screw the negative nasty people. They seriously need to find something better to do with their time, than to find sites to slam because they don’t realize these horrible things can actually happen. You do your thing. We’re all here for you!!
Crystal Says:
January 17th, 2006 at 6:31 pmVisit Crystal
Screw the naysayers/sharks/haters.
Post your story.
You know it happened, those who’ve been through it before and after you know it’s true, and those of us who’ve done enough poking around on the net about the camps know the truth about them.
Michelle Says:
January 17th, 2006 at 7:25 pmVisit Michelle
I realize that some of the negative stuff you get can be disheartening but you shouldn’t let that stop you. This is your story that needs to be told, if it helps just one person out there then I would see it as worth it. On a selfish note I’ve followed the whole story so far and look forward to hearing the end and hope that you choose to finish it for all of us faithful readers. Finally congrats on the upcoming addition to the family.
sophie Says:
January 17th, 2006 at 9:52 pmVisit sophie
Congrats on the baby girl! I look forward to reading your story. Don’t let the critics get you down.
~D~ Says:
January 17th, 2006 at 11:14 pmVisit ~D~
Post it, to heck with the haters, and maybe close the comments if the crap is stressing you out. You need to be thinking happy thoughts and avoiding stress - that’s what’s best for you and for your baby girl. How excited are her future siblings?! In the end, you could always turn this into a Mommy Blog and make the naysayers gag with endless descriptions of bodily functions and breastfeeding. That would show them…”they can’t handle the truth.”
Liz Says:
January 17th, 2006 at 11:56 pmVisit Liz
Ali,
Your story is amazing, and it needs to be told. Don’t let the critics get you down. Screw them all. Congratulations on the new addition to the family. May God grant you strength and grant her health. I look forward to reading the rest. Were the counselors ever punished for this?
Mike Lyne Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 12:20 amVisit Mike Lyne
I sent you an email… keep your chin up Alli.
Congratulations on the baby girl! 
LeftyGrrrl Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 12:29 amVisit LeftyGrrrl
I’m sorry that these people have nothing better to do than try to bring other people down. F*ck ‘em - do your thing. You’ve got way more supporters than naysayers. Congrats on the baby girl!
goodthingscomin Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 12:56 amVisit goodthingscomin
When you share anything with anyone, regardless of who it is, you have the potential of any array of responses. Your decision for saying what you say should be based solely on whether or not you’re equipped to handle the variable of responses. People will believe what they want to believe. You can’t convince anyone. You just have to have the stability to handle whatever it is that gets thrown back your way.
That being said, your story is your story and therefore it is ultimately your decision on how/where/when to tell it; be it based in fiction (not that I’m saying it is) or non-fiction.
Elizabeth Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 7:19 amVisit Elizabeth
Congratulations on the baby girl soon to come and take care of yourself!!
As to the “nastys”…can you block them from bothering you in future?
As to whether what you are writing is true (because I have no experience with anything like those sort of groups)?…it certainly sounds feasible from what I have known of human nature. I was a beaten child (one horrible parent, one saint parent) and I am sure some would not believe my story either…some thought my home was FAR different from reality. So I know what it is to NOT be believed! But part of my thinking is that God allowed what happened to me, so that I will listen and give empathy to others who have been abused too. Because I have no problem believing them. Others who have not lived our kind of existance generally do not totally believe us.
Blessings on you Dearie!!
Sponge Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 8:33 amVisit Sponge
Whether you post your story or not, the nay sayers will always be there. If you took a vote, 95% of us would say we believe it’s a true story.
Personally, if I were you, I wouldn’t let what anyone says bother me. You know the truth, and what you are doing has helped you move forward in your life, and provided a lot of us with some fascinating reading. We believe you and you shouldn’t let what only a few say bother you.
In fact, I just don’t understand why it does get to you, probably because I’m not you. Can you tell us more about why these few morons are having such an effect?
I believe in you and am so looking forward to hearing the rest of your story. Wow, you’ve finished! This is exciting!!! Can you email me a copy so I don’t have to wait??!!!!
Liz Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 8:53 amVisit Liz
Horray! A baby girl!!!
I’m looking forward to the rest of the story. Don’t let the bastards keep you quiet.
Survivor Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 9:01 amVisit Survivor
Million Little Pieces is an incredible book. A story of surviving and hope…
Forget everyone and anyone who chooses to send negative comments, it’s not worth your trouble or your time worrying about it. This is your experience, and thank you for sharing it.
Congrats on the baby girl!
Kim Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 9:18 amVisit Kim
I say go on with your story. Honestly, it doesn’t matter who believes it or not, because YOU know it’s true.
And congratulations on the baby girl!!
Do you have any names picked out yet?
Amy Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 10:13 amVisit Amy
It is your story and if naysayers come out of the woodwork will it’s not your job to prove anything. If they have a negative opinion that is their problem. From what I’ve read of your blog, this is a very theraputic process for you so don’t even give the naysayers another worry
jaboobie Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 10:17 amVisit jaboobie
All personal accounts of a situation are subjective to an extent and embellished by our frail memories. I doubt everyone in your camp would write the exact same story.
That doesn’t mean that your story is fiction.
There are people out there who will criticize anything. You couldn’t get 60% of the population to agree that puppies are cute. Why would you expect more to embrace your story?
Just write.
Victoria Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 10:29 amVisit Victoria
Selfishly, I would like to say Post Your Story. I would honestly say that one should never make a decision to do, or not do, anything out of Fear. Don’t let the haters bring you down. Your story is your story. Personally, I believe it because I had such a similar story. Every single thing I can relate to because I have felt all of those sam e emotions. And in that relating with your story, I have found my own peace with some of the things that went on where I was. So: I do believe your story is truly important and should get out there. On the flip side of that same coin, you have shared that this website is to help you and to try and spread the message. If it is no longer helping you, then I wouldn’t do it. Take care of yourself first. So: long story, even longer- Do what is in your best interests. But for the love of a goat, don’t base your decision off of fear. And thank you for sharing with us what you have. I know that I have certainly appreciated your raw honesty and emotions.
Congrats on your baby! What a blessing and so much fun!
Peace,
Victoria
GuywiththeHat Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 10:48 amVisit GuywiththeHat
Again congrats on the little girl. Like all the other faithful readers, I am looking forward to reading the rest of the story. You’ve had some ups and downs while writing it and, there were a few times I feared that you might drop the story and leave the it unfinished.
Your writing isn’t about “proving” what happened. It’s not about eliminating the negative feedback. I don’t think it’s about your readers at all. I’ve always felt as though it was getting something very painful out where you can look at it and possibly purge some of the pain in doing so. It’s not about us. It’s about you. So, you write what you want, when you want, however you want. If people like it, good. If not, so what? There are many people who don’t have anything to say and try to make up for that by putting other people down. JMHO
Fubsy Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 11:22 amVisit Fubsy
Publish the story. It’s yours and your past. We want to hear it! Don’t let the haters get you down. You know what’s right and true.
Congratulations on the baby girl!
Sponge Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 11:48 amVisit Sponge
PS. Congrats on the baby girl!
Lynn Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 12:12 pmVisit Lynn
Who are you writing this for? I believe this is a kind of therapy for you. So you keep going and don’t give this people another thought. Congrats on the little stranger.
Lynn Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 12:13 pmVisit Lynn
*those
Crystal (a different one) Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 12:24 pmVisit Crystal (a different one)
Alli: I have read the book, as have quite a few people that I know, and we all loved the book. No matter what the press says, his story resonnates to the core of who you are as a human who feels. I think his struggle to get his life back is amazingly told, and in a way that the reader feels as though they are in his mind. I, like you, had a hard time putting the book down. I am currently reading his follow up ‘My Friend Leonard,’ which is, of course, just as enjoyable. I say keep posting and ignore the critics! Congrats on your new baby, and thanks for sharing your story with us!
Ashia Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 1:13 pmVisit Ashia
congrats on your baby! I see you as such a young girl reading through your story its hard to imagine that you are a grown woman with a family!
There is always going to be positive/negative responses….just remember…no press is bad press.
CONGRATS AGAIN!
Heather Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 1:38 pmVisit Heather
Congratulations on the little girl!! Don’t let the haters get you down. You know what happened, you were there, not them. If you want to tell the rest of your story, you have a lot of people who would like to hear it!!
Jennifer Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 1:58 pmVisit Jennifer
“Anyway, James Frey is an amazing survivor, he tells an important story and I think the press he’s been getting is absolutely offensive to see and completely ignorant. The most important part of his story was his experience in the treatment center. Thats the part that helps people.”
I think you’ve answered your own question. Shake off the haters and finish doing what you’ve intended to do, to share your story, to help others heal and to help yourself heal.
Sis B Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 2:02 pmVisit Sis B
I haven’t commented before, but I read your story in two days after I first discovered it. One thing I’ve learned is that no matter what, there will always be naysayers. If you live your life to avoid them, you’ll only be hounded by them more. Be confident in you, and screw those other bastards. (This opinion is only partially biased based on my intense desire to read the rest of your story.)
Holy Schmidt! - Melanie Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 2:24 pmVisit Holy Schmidt! - Melanie
I can’t believe you’re having a girl! I hate you so much…With love, of course.
I say poop on the assholes. It’s not their story. You’re not making anyone read it. They can stop at anytime if they don’t like it.
Don’t let them get to you!
Call me, woman!
Kate Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 2:38 pmVisit Kate
Its your story - you tell it. Screw the naysayers and lurkers. I found James Frey’s book one of the best I’ve ever read - at first I was kind of bothered by all the stuff coming out and then I watched him on Larry King Live and he was so right - 12 pages of this book are in dispute - not the rest of the 400+ pages. It’s a story of survival and overcoming obstacles - just like yours. GO FOR IT.
Kristin Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 3:04 pmVisit Kristin
This is for you. You are writing because it is cathartic for you. Let the rest of them deal with their pretentious attitudes.
There are those of us who care about you and your story. The rest…well, they can just…have a nice day!
Cecily Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 3:44 pmVisit Cecily
As a sober alcoholic, I knew the minute I read the first chapter of James Frey’s book that he wasn’t telling the truth. It’s not just his criminal history that he lied about– Hazeldon would NEVER require someone get dental surgery without novacaine–that’s simply INSANE. I know hundreds of alcoholics who have been through rehab and while, sure, they aren’t going to be given codiene afterwards, during the surgery they’d get what was needed.
Also, no rehab center in the US would conduct “raids” on crack houses. Seriously. That’s crazy. Would they take drunks to bars? No.
While only part of his book may have been fabricated (his ENTIRE criminal history did not happen), and now there is much evidence that his girlfriend didn’t exist either, the real crime he committed was going to public appearances and embellishing his past further–particularly his criminal background.
He’s a liar, and I doubt that much of the book is true. The second book (which covers his non-existant time in prison) is even worse. As Mary Karr said in her NY Times editorial, wouldn’t you be a little upset if it had turned out that Hellen Keller was really just a little near-sighted and not deaf, mute, and blind?
Ahem. That aside, I do know that his story has helped lots of people who have addicts and alcoholics in their lives feel like they can understand that person more now. So I give him points for that. But universally, all of the alcoholics/addicts I know hated the book LONG before the story of his lies broke.
All that said, when I started reading your blog I was completely mesmerized because what you were telling felt completly and utterly honest. VERY different from how I felt reading the Frey book.
Remember that thousands of people write memoirs, and your story is already backed up by facts. You will be ok. Don’t worry about them–as long as you tell the truth, no one will do to you what was done to James Frey. Remember, he brought it on himself.
Keep writing!
ChuckyG Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 3:48 pmVisit ChuckyG
There are also people who denied the Nazi Holocaust happened, but you wouldn’t take any of them seriousily would you? I’ve been online in some fashion for over 15 years (almost 20 now), and you will always find trolls online who send hate filled email, or post crap intended to get a rise out of people. The people sending you these emails do so because they can remain anonymous, not because they have some legitimate reason for doubting your story. I wouldn’t even refer to these people as “critics” because they most likely have nothing to offer as a reason your story is not true.
I’d be willing to bet the worst of the email comes from people who sent their own kids to one of these
tortureboot camps. The last thing they would ever want to do, is think they may have subjected their own children to something as bad as what you’ve endured.Congrats on your baby girl, having a kid changes your life (for the better!)
shugahbug Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 4:32 pmVisit shugahbug
Screw those people…your story is yours and we appreciate you sharing it with us…there will always be people who can’t be happy for anyone or anything, because they will never be happy with themselves.
jenib Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 5:58 pmVisit jenib
One thing I have learned in life is that you cannot change what others do with their lives. This covers how they think or interpret experiences and things they learn. All you can do is put your story out there. Out of the thousand or even millions of hits you can get, there is going to be a great impact on a percentage of readers.
Personally, I have experienced severe mental, emotional, and emotional abuse as a child. I have found that when I tell my story, I am met with all kinds of responses from apathy to disbelief to intense sympathy. I know that I will never be able to predict a response but I am not in control of that. All I can do is what I feel is right and that is what you should do. Silence is what condones activities like you endured. There needs to be a voice to speak up for the children who cannot find their voice and do not have the resources you do.
I am proud of you for sharing. It must be a difficult thing to hang your personal laundry out for varying feedback from unknown sources. “Electric communication will never be a substitute for the face of someone who with their soul encourages another person to be brave and true.” ~Charles Dickens
Cl Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 6:26 pmVisit Cl
Alli, James Frey is a rare case where they found evidence that some of the things were made up (see the person’s comment that dentists would not deny novocaine to addicts). Your story IS true. And you have the journals to prove it. Even stories that have been far fetched (like “Running with Scissors”) have done well and so have the authors, despite the nay-sayers. James Frey’s story is only getting this extra backlash because even Oprah promoted it. Many memoirs haven’t been subject to this nonsense. So don’t worry about the rare case of James Frey. YOUR story of struggle and survival will interest and help thousands of people. So keep going with it. And yes, I want to see it published so everyone can be as glued as I was!! You can always include an appendix in the back with questions people have asked on this site, and your answers. That should help the doubters understand more about what went on.
rachel Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 7:13 pmVisit rachel
One more vote to put the critics in the background and focus on the help you are giving to those who need it.
If not for you, I (who work with teens) would have believed that these camps were safe! I wouldn’t have known better. My God! Isn’t that worth sticking your neck out for?
Easy for me to say, since it isn’t my neck, but all our prayers and support and love go with you. However, no one would blame you for treading cautiously and doing what your gut is telling you to do. Either way, you have our support. Do what you think you should do for you and for your family. Don’t feel you have to rush into anything. You have already done so much good.
Jen Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 7:42 pmVisit Jen
99% true is yet another embellishment, especially when you take James Frey’s follow-up book into consideration. The man served no time in prison, is profitting by painfully inserting himself as a victim into the story of a train wreck which did claim two lives, and was a popular high schooler and college frat boy. I don’t have a problem with the book, per se, (it was initially marketed to publisher’s as fiction), because plenty of novels have changed lives. However, when he tries to garner personal sympathy and credibility through claiming these fictional experiences as his own, that’s a problem for me.
That said, I’ve always read this blog knowing that it could well be fiction. Don’t be offended; you’re some anonymous stranger on the internet posting things, as far as I know. I read because it’s interesting and entertaining, and hopefully you post because you get something positive out of it, too. However, I’d be careful how I presented this story (nonfiction, “based on a true story, but with altered details,” complete fiction), lest some similar outcry follow in the future.
Aimee Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 10:30 pmVisit Aimee
F*** ‘em. You know what you went through, no one else does. The internet has made it very easy for everyone to assume there is someone who cares what they think. Like, for instance, me typing this right now. Know what I mean? There are some people out there who live to nitpik, they’re everywhere you go. Just let it go like water off a duck. We loves ya Alli!
Erykah Says:
January 18th, 2006 at 11:25 pmVisit Erykah
James Frey’s father works at my university, and they’ve run a column about the entire “controversy” over the legitimacy of the book. The Prof stands by his son (as he should) I just wish your parents would have done the same for you.
Congrats on your baby girl! May she have as beautiful a spirit as you
DM Says:
January 19th, 2006 at 12:01 amVisit DM
After I first found your site on blog explosion, I did a google search on these camps and the owner. This wasn’t because I didn’t believe you but because I couldn’t believe that there were people who didn’t believe you. I remember vaguely hearing about these camps (I’m about six-seven years older than you) and have always been grateful that my mother never sent me off to one. Especially grateful after reading what you have written.
And, as Chucky G said, there are still people who doubt the Holocaust existed. There are still people who believe that the earth is flat. I look at it this way, Alli, you have helped many people deal with their own abuse and made them stronger people.
I would very much like to read the end of this story. It has been a long time coming, Alli. You’ve made it this far. Continue to be a survivor.
Sam Says:
January 19th, 2006 at 10:13 amVisit Sam
I think that most of the the time the press just wants to present the other side to get controversy and ratings. You got to do whats best for you and if you feel that posting your story will help you in the end, then that is most important.
As far as “A Million Little Pieces”, when the story was on the news about it being made up and all of that all I could help to think was, “who cares?” Even if Frey made it all up, he got people to buy and read his book (which we have to admit is the goal of any writer), got Oprah to talk about it, and most importantly he got people to think and really helped people who didn’t know what else to do. Besides there is no such thing as bad press…people are buying and reading the book and talking about it. What more could a writer want?
This is about you. Try not to worry about what others might say. It seems that people don’t want to work together anymore. They would rather put someone else down to build themselves up. This is your site and your space.
Laura Says:
January 19th, 2006 at 3:36 pmVisit Laura
Ali,
I don’t normally comment, but here it goes. Your “story” is yours - you own it & nobody can take that away.
I also want you to know that I am a parent of a troubled teen and your story prevented me from sending my son there. So, if nothing else, you story so far has prevented ONE child from this abuse. I have checked out many camps and almost all of them have these horrors. Thank you for saving my son, however troubled he still maybe.
Congratulations & Good Luck.
Laura
caroline Says:
January 19th, 2006 at 8:46 pmVisit caroline
I read A Million Little Pieces over a year ago and I found it fascinating, gross, powerful, poetic…in similar ways to your story. I’m not saying that you had teeth pulled with no pain killers or anesthesia, but both of your stories are so profound that I’d read them whether or not they were fact or fiction. The saddest part is that they’re fact. You can tell they’re fact by the power they hold. When I read your stories I physically wince. As far as I can see, you pay for a website, you maintain it yourself and you promote the downfall of these bootcamp institutions, and if your story was false there’d be no motive for such action and effort, especially with your personal life. I don’t know anything about you besides 63 days, and I’m positive that your story is real.
If my speculations are wrong then I’ll just blame it on my being 19 and dumb.
Congratulations on the baby girl, I wish you all the best.
caroline Says:
January 19th, 2006 at 8:46 pmVisit caroline
I read A Million Little Pieces over a year ago and I found it fascinating, gross, powerful, poetic…in similar ways to your story. I’m not saying that you had teeth pulled with no pain killers or anesthesia, but both of your stories are so profound that I’d read them whether or not they were fact or fiction. The saddest part is that they’re fact. You can tell they’re fact by the power they hold. When I read your stories I physically wince. As far as I can see, you pay for a website, you maintain it yourself and you promote the downfall of these bootcamp institutions, and if your story was false there’d be no motive for such action and effort, especially with your personal life. I don’t know anything about you besides 63 days, and I’m positive that your story is real.
If my speculations are wrong then I’ll just blame it on my being 19 and dumb.
Congratulations on the baby girl, I wish you all the best.
Bella Says:
January 19th, 2006 at 10:22 pmVisit Bella
I think that what was troubling about Frey’s book was that people were under the impression that his work was strict autobiography when in fact it was a bit more fictional than they had thought.
In any case, I am among those who think that sharing your story is very important.
You may be interested in this post on fact/fiction in blogs and the Frey situation: http://www.suburbanbliss.net/suburbanbliss/2006/01/james_frey_and_.html
Art Vandelay Says:
January 20th, 2006 at 1:42 pmVisit Art Vandelay
James Frey may be a world-class putz, but I don’t think you are.
Regardless, even if your blog were 100% fiction, it’s an amazing story so far and I’m looking forward to the rest.
Screw the naysayers. It’s your story, not theirs.
Nightmare Says:
January 20th, 2006 at 8:43 pmVisit Nightmare
Ali-girl,
You know the answer to all of this before you even asked. Fuck all of those ass blowing naysayers. what they are all doing is trying to keep everyone at the same level as them. The guy with the brain disorder obvisouly wants you to be humbled and to make him feel better about himself he tries to drag you down. He is a cockscker and if he wants to talk shit send him my way. I like whipping up on shit talkers!!
Amber Says:
January 21st, 2006 at 12:47 amVisit Amber
Ali,
I’m pretty sure I owe you brownies (service party- if you have no idea what that means then I’m thinking you’re someone else). Congrats on the girl! I think you need to do what’s best for you- if this is healing then do it- but be prepared for the naysayers. But I’m seriously on the edge of my seat waiting for the rest of the story.
Amber
Kathleen Says:
January 21st, 2006 at 8:52 pmVisit Kathleen
Tell your truth and trust that it is enough. That’s the mistake Frey made. He felt like his story was not enough, so he crossed over the line from normal variation in a memoir to outright lying.
If 99% of his story were true, no one would care. But that’s not the case. He lied and he got caught. Just one small example is that he inserted himself into the death of a young woman who it turns out he didn’t know. That’s not reflective of a recall problem, that reflective of a personality defect.
However, he has my sympathy in that a lot of readers were enablers to him (& I use the word enable purposely.) I read that book when it first came out and I knew right away it was more fiction than fact. I realize a lot of people were truly taken in by him, but I believe that most readers chose to suspend their disbelief because they liked the story so much, for whatever reason.
Remember, your truth is enough. Keep telling it.
Mandy Says:
January 22nd, 2006 at 8:44 pmVisit Mandy
I don’t think you should worry about what others think. You know what is true and you know what happened to you. The rest of us are simply here to read your story and support you as you heal. If someone person thinks you made it up, nothing you do can convince them it’s true. If you know the truth in your heart, that’s all that matters. If they don’t believe it, they shouldn’t read it.
Wendy Says:
January 22nd, 2006 at 11:07 pmVisit Wendy
Congratulations on the Baby Girl, Alli! As for the naysayers, just ignore them. I know sometimes that that is easier said than done. But, there will always be people out there, who won’t believe things, unless there’s a video to prove it. And, even then, some will still not be convinced. Your story needs to get out there. To help the ones who went through similar experiences and are too terrified to say anything.
Liz Says:
January 23rd, 2006 at 7:29 amVisit Liz
I love your story, and I think that while you admit some of the details may be necssarily altered, I believe that the meaningful parts of it is true. Even if it weren’t? I think this site provides more a fascinating story and survival tale rather than a research opportunity, so I don’t think I’d even care! Thanks for writing - I hope you post the ending!
Tricia Says:
January 23rd, 2006 at 11:35 pmVisit Tricia
I have been reading since the beginning. I keep reading because I believe you and have faith in your writing.
Plus there is a new book out there called Marley and Me - a memoir also. My prof. at school knows the writer and totally vouches for the story. Author’s like him and you will restore people’s faith in the truth.
Rae Says:
January 24th, 2006 at 1:50 pmVisit Rae
First of all, congrats on your lovely little girl-on-the-way!! SQUEEEEE!! Second of all, don’t let anyone deter you from finishing this, Alli. You deserve to get it all out there and finish what you started. I don’t know you, Alli, but I’m fiercely proud of you for doing this. Many blessing showered upon you!!
Kristina Says:
January 25th, 2006 at 3:36 pmVisit Kristina
Congrats on the baby girl!
First off, no joke I’m sitting right here with THAT book in my lap. (Just had to skip through a few of my favorite blogs before getting to the book.)
I love your story. It is one of the most captivating I have read ever. I believe it to be true, but even if it weren’t it still makes a good read. I say screw it to all of your not supportive readers. Many books have been controversial and those are usually the better aren’t they? I think a lot of people want to believe the world is good and true, and they can’t handle letting themselves believe these horrific tales.
I admire your strength. Hang in there!
Red Says:
January 26th, 2006 at 9:41 amVisit Red
Who cares what the press/sharks/haters say? Write on! If they have a problem with you then send them to me. I will deal with them.
*rub hands together with an evil smirk on gorgeous face*
Yes, I will deal with them.
Bbbbbwwwwaaaaaaaaahhhhhhaaaaa!!!
ariadneK Says:
January 26th, 2006 at 5:51 pmVisit ariadneK
I’m actually quite pleased by the scrutiny that James Frey’s lying (let’s face it, simply “stretching the truth” in no way describes what he did) will now place upon “nonfiction” pieces. The only reason he came clean about the situation on Oprah now is that there’s simply hno way he can hide it.
Let’s face it: those of us like you and me who don’t lie can hold up to such scrutiny and have nothing to fear, so screw what anyone else says. Naysayers lurk everywhere and cannot be avoided, so ignore ‘em. James is a different case altogether though: he twisted everything well beyond reality, and for that the criticisms against him are well-deserved.
usadiane Says:
January 26th, 2006 at 6:26 pmVisit usadiane
I haven’t been here in awhile, but I have not forgotten….
I find the whole controversy surrounding James Frey silly. If he helped one person *and many have backed him that he has helped MORE than one* then why the outcry? I believe everyone has different recollections of the past. If you had 10 people in the same room encounter a situation, you would hear 10 different accounts of what actually happened. Each and every person has a distinct personality and mindset, which would allow them to see things in a different way. It is what makes us individuals. Some people could convey there memories in one sentence…others in a page full of thoughts.
A person who posted by the name of Laura on January 19th said that you prevented her from sending her son to a boot camp. Isn’t that one person that was helped by reading your story proof enough that your words are indeed important?
Screw the sharks who look to find fault in others. In this day and age, it is so sad to see so many people out to hurt their fellow man.
I liked James Freys book. I don’t care whether it was truth or fiction. Did he embellish his story, admittedly yes. Does it change the basis of the story no.
There are stories in my family that are exchanged over the years since I was a small child. Most of them funny situations and family doings. Over the years they get funnier and more absurd. My extended family is very large. To hear my cousin tell the same story that I heard years ago makes me laugh, because each year it gets bigger and better. Does it matter in the long run? No…because the base of the story is true.
I hope that you one day publish your story. I will recommend it to everyone. To save yourself the unfair pain and humiliation that poor James has received, put a simple disclaimer in there reading…these are my thoughts and words AS I REMEMBER them…screw the rest….
Love your blog and I’m happy to hear that you are moving on in your life! Congrats!
Diane, Wisconsin
ShannonL Says:
January 27th, 2006 at 1:27 pmVisit ShannonL
This is so funny!!!!! I was JUST on Oprah’s website reading the transcript from her show yesterday where she interviewed James Frey about the lies in his book.
No kidding I thought, “when Alli is writing her book, the publisher might give her a hard time about proving everything when she writes it.”
Then I realized I hadn’t stopped by your site for a while and decided to see if you’ve added a new entry.
And here you are writing an entry about Frey and what effect it will have on your book. I think I must be psychic ;P
Listen, you’ve said you are going off of the journals you’ve kept. As long as you stay true to that, then all is well.
Frey admitted to switching details to protect people’s identities who were in the book and filling in the blanks where he couldn’t remember certain facts.
Alli, you aren’t doing those things. You are going off of your journals and I’m sure if you couldn’t remember something, you wouldn’t fill in the blank with a lie, or lie to make a situation more dramatic like Frey did.
I wouldn’t worry about the reprecussions (sp?) of Frey’s book. Or what people think of your stories for that matter.
Write honestly and no one can tear down what you’ve written.
Kim Says:
January 27th, 2006 at 1:28 pmVisit Kim
Just curious, why the need for approval from a group of majority of strangers, knowing what their answers would be? Why is the hate only being spread via email and never on your comments?
If you choose to write this story, fact, fiction or any combination thereof, that is your business. MY OPINION: the story you tell seems a combination thereof. Your writing style is good. Best wishes!
Bre Says:
January 28th, 2006 at 2:06 pmVisit Bre
Whether Frey lied or didn’t, or how much or how little, is no reflection on you. He is him and you are you, and his story is his story and yours is your own. In any case, people won’t suddenly start disbelieving all memoirs now just because of some hoopla about one of them.
Just tell your own story. (And bless you for it.)
Mike Lyne Says:
January 29th, 2006 at 1:44 amVisit Mike Lyne
Everything has it’s own time and place, Alli. Just keep it simple and do what feels right.
phoenix Says:
January 29th, 2006 at 9:01 pmVisit phoenix
You do have our support Alli… just look at all the support you have here.
You have already helped some save themselves and 1 that we know of that read this and she changed her mind about sending her son to a camp.
That is wonderful!!
Congrats on the baby boy!!
Heather Says:
January 29th, 2006 at 10:12 pmVisit Heather
Well then, congratulations on the baby BOY!! I’ve been watching a lot about James Frey lately, and my whole theory is what difference does it make if he embelished or not. As a person married to a former addict I know that a lot of times what they remember, may not be actually what happend. I think the point is that he helped people. Even if his story is 100% made up, he still helped addicts find their way and I think that is what is important. As for you, only you know what happened and if it helps you to shout it from the rooftops then by all means, do so!!
ShannonL Says:
January 30th, 2006 at 1:32 pmVisit ShannonL
Based on your interview on that cable show you were on, I can totally see your concern. The interviewer seemed skeptical of your story and even twisted the stolen car story where you were escaping and made it sound like you were a juvenile delinquent stealing a car to cause trouble.
So, if you’re ever interviewed after your book comes out, be picky about who you interview with.
Serenity Says:
January 31st, 2006 at 9:13 amVisit Serenity
Late here…didn’t realize you had updated. I think by now we have all heard Frey admit his book was not true and he DID try to pass it off as a “memoir” and not fiction. He got caught lying.
One thing you have to know if you plan on writing a book, if you claim it is the truth, it will be investigated.
So I ask you, Alli….isn’t that exactly what you want? There is no reason to fear when you tell the truth. People will be skeptical, they will dig down and find out if you are telling the truth or not and when they come up with the results of their investigation, perhaps some things that need to happen will happen.
You say your story is true…there is a LOT of crime going on in this story. People need to pay for those crimes. Investigations in to these kinds of “camps” need to be done and the truth revealed. LET them doubt..and then let them see the truth and watch how you made a difference.
Use your strength, keep a thick skin, don’t take it personal if someone doubts you..they don’t know you…it’s not personal…and relax.
Ginger Says:
February 1st, 2006 at 3:22 amVisit Ginger
If James Frey and Oprah have such authentic stories to tell, then why do they have the need to embelish so much? Were you really as bad as you’ve been led to believe?
Ginger Says:
February 1st, 2006 at 3:38 amVisit Ginger
“I find the whole controversy surrounding James Frey silly. If he helped one person ”
Yeah? Well how many kids got kidnapped from their beds at night behind the rear that he generated among parents of kids headed for just his frat life??
Huloooo! Wake the hell up!
RuKsaK Says:
February 1st, 2006 at 8:15 amVisit RuKsaK
Truth is made of superhuman, hypertensile sinew and heart - nothing, nobody, not even a God can crack it. Keep telling this story and make sure you get it into the heads of as many people as you can.
CL Says:
February 1st, 2006 at 10:02 pmVisit CL
Boy, girl, congrats on the baby.
I second this person:
“Let’s face it: those of us like you and me who don’t lie can hold up to such scrutiny and have nothing to fear, so screw what anyone else says.”
The Frey case means that publishers will make more efforts to check out memoirs now. So anything that gets published will have gone through the process, and people will trust it. They still do trust MOST memoirs.
You have your journals, you have other people who went through the camps, and you have a lot of capacity for remembering the most important details.
Your book will help other people. If you want to write it, write it!
And as I suggested, when people ask (good) questions here, you could always include an index at the end filling in some of the details people want to know.
ariadneK Says:
February 2nd, 2006 at 4:13 amVisit ariadneK
You know, the more I think about the crap that Frey has managed to dump not only upon himself but every other writer around him is THE MOST SELFISH thing anyone can do: hurt the chances of honest storytellers getting their own work through smoothly. Of course, this whole dark cloud won’t hang around forever, but he surely did fuck up in a way that will make any of us who write feel uncomfortable for awhile. It’s SO totally not fair, but fuck anyone who is in denial about what you weave together in your own first-hand experience; the sort of assholes who would try to rip it will be the conservative assholes who think that having their kids “beaten into shape and learning responsibility” in one of these camps is a great thing to do. Anyway, I’m tired and babbling, but I think you now what I mean.
Anna Says:
February 2nd, 2006 at 5:33 pmVisit Anna
OK so im not so good on the adivce or saying things that will make you smile and hope for the better, im just not one who knows what to say and when to say it but i will say that you dont need approval or anything from other people other than from yourself and from those you care about.
I would also like to congratulate you on the baby ! what ever sex it is.
Kelsey Says:
February 2nd, 2006 at 7:34 pmVisit Kelsey
Okay! face it you can’t please everybody in the world, and someone hates everything anyone does!! now i don’t mean to be rude but HURRY UP AND FINISH!! i’ve gotten all my friends hooked on your blog and now that’s all we can talk about. i can’t wait for the end of the story. as soon as i get home everyday i run to the computer to cheack the blog, and i’m not kidding. now the oven is beeping at me so i must go!
Congrats on your baby BOY!!!!
-Kelsey
Liz Says:
February 4th, 2006 at 12:42 amVisit Liz
Allie,
Congrats on the baby boy! Your story is your story true or otherwise. If some don’t buy it, c’est la vie. Screw them.
Now, when are you publishing the rest? I like the idea of an index at the end.
Your friend,
LIz
Enigma Says:
February 7th, 2006 at 10:37 amVisit Enigma
Is the issue now - that you planned on publishing your story as a book and now you wonder if it will sell so that is why you are not posting the end of your story here on your blog?
I know lives get hectic but I also blog a bit and tell very intense real stories about my own life. I never plan on marketing my stories so I do not care about things like public investigation.
I think you saw this as a chance to make some cash. And there is nothing wrong with making cash this way at all. It just seems like to me that you should declare that this blog is over or step up to the plate and publish the work that you state is already completed.
One way or the other…. Do something.
Mike Lyne Says:
February 7th, 2006 at 5:06 pmVisit Mike Lyne
Isn’t that just a little bit on the harsh side, Enigma?
When it comes to posting, if it were me, I would look at it as a matter of prioritization. What’s more important… Taking care of the family that loves you and the child that’s growing in your womb, or posting more blog entries and hoping that you don’t have to put up with a bunch of negative emails/comments as a result of that? (And I wasn’t directed at you, Enigma…)
Personally, I’ve never got the impression that the sole motivator behind this book was the cash that she could make from it. Yeah, that’s probably significant, but it’s secondary to simply getting her story out there, I would think.
Alli’s never struck me as the kind of person to wear her experiences like a badge of honor or anything like that… and I’m not sure that she’s looking for heaps of praise and sympathy either. Probably the main focus is simply increasing the awareness of what goes on in these camps, as well as supplying a foundation of understanding and support for others who have been through similiar experiences.
That last bit probably goes both ways. When a person goes through these experiences and has to spend 15 or so years trying to cope, being understood and knowing that other people respect you for what you’ve been through (and maybe can relate) can become a key part to ‘moving on’ and accepting the past…
If the person doesn’t have that, it can become a habbit to try to justify or defend, by way of explanation, the things that they’ve experienced as well as why they maybe didn’t do things differently… the end result being that the person gets lost in the details of their past and maybe may feel like the situation is never brought to a close.
I don’t know if that applies to Alli at all, but if it does, publishing a book would probably help with the explanation part.
Ultimately, putting any kind of pressure on Alli to do one thing or the other isn’t going to help her. She needs the room to be able to do this at her own pace, when she feels comfortable with it. In the meantime, the best thing anybody can do is to offer their support and be patient with her.
Having said all of that, it’s only my opinion… I obviously don’t speak for anybody else and I understand if not everybody agrees with me… just thought I’d throw it out there.
Peace.
-Mike
Zim Says:
February 9th, 2006 at 2:28 pmVisit Zim
Well as someone else mentioned, Frey’s problem was that the parts of his book that could be actually verified were checked and proven to be false. So automatically the question has to be asked, “If the stuff that is verifiable is proven false, how much of this stuff that can’t be verified is false?”
Having said that, I’ve been reading your posts since last summer and have been riveted. I lived in Utah when all those torture camps were popular (and not yet known to be the torture chambers they actually were) so I felt a connection to your story. I have a pretty strong BS detector and it didn’t go off for you. As soon as I saw James Frey speak, it was going off like crazy.
Anyway, you can’t control what other people do or say or think. You can only be honest and put things out there. If others don’t like it, that’s their problem. Frey’s problem is that he lied and lied and lied and then got caught. Just tell the truth and you’ll be all right.
Mary Says:
February 14th, 2006 at 1:31 amVisit Mary
Don’t count on those ultrasound results. I had 14 ultrasounds with my last pregnancy, and it wasn’t until I was 9 months along before they were sure it was a boy. My best friend at the time was also preggers, and they swore it was gonna be a girl, but she wound up bringing a precious little boy home in a pink outfit to live in a pink bedroom. If you want to buy clothes and decorate in advance, stick with yellow and green pastels - you can’t go wrong with those, no matter what flavor kid you get.
ordinary girl Says:
February 15th, 2006 at 4:36 pmVisit ordinary girl
I think James Frey should have called it a novel and the memoir part was pure marketing. His “memory” is not the only thing that got in the way of the truth.
As far as your story goes, I’ve believed every word (and I also believed every word of James Frey when I read his book) but I think absolutely some people’s reactions will be that they think you’re full of it. You just have to decide whether that actually matters to you. I don’t think the “press” has made James Frey look bad, just his publishing company. He’s sold more books since the Smoking Gun’s article was released.
ariadneK Says:
February 16th, 2006 at 3:37 pmVisit ariadneK
Enigma, I don’t see this “63 Days” project (and yes, it IS a project because it goes well beyond a mere book, in my opinion) as the cash cow you suspect it to be. It’s more of a public service announcement to alert people like myself…who had no clue about such horrible situations…to the ugly truth.
Alli, I too have been on the edge of my seat awaiting the story’s conclusion (and have occasionally left comments indicating as much), but ya know what? LIFE HAPPENS.
Funny thing, eh? (Note the sarcasm dripping from my words). You obviously have many terrific things happening for you right now, and juggling everything can be nuts, as most of us here understand. Blogging can be a real bitch when you’re busy, stressed, and otherwise “living” (I’ve become very erratic with my blog due to several things, both good and bad, swirling around my life at the moment), so don’t sweat it.
Best,
ariK
Tippidy-doo-dah Says:
February 16th, 2006 at 4:52 pmVisit Tippidy-doo-dah
HI MOM! well im in class right now i turned in that paper so you can come on my feild trip! i love you! and that lil boy in your belly! gosta go and be gangsta! (just messin)
;)
MJG Says:
February 17th, 2006 at 12:51 pmVisit MJG
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11396434/
Video released of teen restrained at boot camp
Parents of boy, 14, believe it shows guards beat him to death
This story reminded me of your experiences, and broke my heart.
Kimdog Says:
February 17th, 2006 at 1:40 pmVisit Kimdog
Hey chica
Here’s another reason to continue with your story:
http://www.cnn.com/2006/US/02/17/bootcamp.death.ap/index.html
Kelli Says:
February 17th, 2006 at 2:06 pmVisit Kelli
Have you read this story yet? This is sickening!
http://www.cnn.com/2006/US/02/17/bootcamp.death.ap/index.html
Renee Says:
February 19th, 2006 at 4:52 pmVisit Renee
Alli,
I’ve been following your story for a while now. I’m very glad to hear that you and your husband are expecting a dear little boy. Please take the time to research everything you can about routine infant circumcision. It is a medically unnecessary procedure that does absolutely nothing to improve the health or quality of life of boys. I’m not trying to take over your webpage, but this is an extremely important issue that I wanted to bring to your attention. You seem like the kind of person who is always fighting for the rights of others to peacefully exist, please let that right extend to infants as well.
Sincerely,
~Nay
Sis B Says:
February 20th, 2006 at 10:35 amVisit Sis B
i saw that news clip, too, and immediately thought of you. i hope you and your baby are well, and i’m anxiously awaiting the rest, too. that being said, make the right decision for you and your family and those of us who appreciate your work will understand whichever way you choose to go.
ZTYKA Says:
February 24th, 2006 at 4:07 amVisit ZTYKA
Its been almost 3 months since you last posted part of your story. This is clearly not a matter of being too busy. I SMELL BULLSHIT!
Either post your story or say the the real reason why you won’t. Either way…… do something.
Art Vandelay Says:
February 24th, 2006 at 1:59 pmVisit Art Vandelay
Renee,
Circumcision may be medically unnecessary, but do you want your kid to be nicknamed “burrito dick” for the rest of his life after the other kids see him in the locker room? I’d wager that the psychological scarring is far worse than the removal of an extraneous piece of skin.
Oh, never mind. You’re a woman (or a Frenchman). You couldn’t possibly understand
Candy Says:
February 26th, 2006 at 1:42 pmVisit Candy
I have to say I KNOW you are telling the truth. Alli it is wonderful that someone that has survived the hell is strong enough to put it in words and share with others. My real name was not used on this post for my own personal reasons. You are strong and brave. Thank You
ariadneK Says:
February 26th, 2006 at 11:27 pmVisit ariadneK
(Yup, Nay, I agree with you 100%…just thought I’d through in my voice of agreement, no matter how random it might seem!)
Best to ya Alli, you take care,
K.
Twila Says:
March 2nd, 2006 at 5:09 pmVisit Twila
My heart is racing my blood pressure is up and all I can think is She Survived - She Survived! You have no idea how close I came to sending my eldest child to one of these camps. Praise God I didn’t! I’m glad you are sharing your story - I want to read more of it. I just started reading it yesterday at day 1 and have completed it today (and my boss thought he was paying me to work!)
Heather Says:
March 2nd, 2006 at 9:36 pmVisit Heather
It says that the comments are closed on your post from today. So, I thought I’d comment here. I’m glad to hear that things are okay with you. I was hoping nothing was wrong with you or the baby. As for the jerkwad that sent you the e-mail, does he realize that people have a life outside of the internet?
Take care!!
ariadneK Says:
March 2nd, 2006 at 10:29 pmVisit ariadneK
Hey woman!!!!!
Great to get the update, and I hope all is great with the new home and (growing) family and such.
I’ll probably be moving as well soon (from Dallas to Albuquerque), I know…a random comment, but I thought I’d share anyway. 
PLEASE sign me up for getting a password to read the rest of the story!!!
(hugs),
ariK
Shadow Tremors Says:
March 3rd, 2006 at 8:58 amVisit Shadow Tremors
I think your story is amazing. I don’t even remember how I found it, but when I did I read all of your post in one day.
That said, I’m bothered by your reaction to some of the criticism offered in the comments. It’s frustrating when you say that you’ll post tonight and then don’t for almost a month. And your comments page says that email addresses won’t be published, but in your newest post you publish NJZachman’s FIVE times. What’s up with that?
There will always be people who don’t believe. But if you don’t keep your word, then people start to doubt they can trust you.
Anyway…I believe your story and think you’re pretty brave to post it and open yourself up to doubt and criticism. Hang in there. Blessings and peace to you and your family.
Kristin Says:
March 3rd, 2006 at 12:12 pmVisit Kristin
I couldn’t reply on your most recent post. I was just going to say I’d appreciate a password invite if it comes to that. So sad that it has.
ILikePie Says:
March 3rd, 2006 at 12:32 pmVisit ILikePie
Attacking your critics and locking comments on the post- that’s classy. Very mature.
Also, here’s a little quote:
“Mail (will not be published) (required)”
I got that from the comments form on this very website. Maybe you should take part out.
If you don’t react well to criticism of any kind, then posting your story on the internet could be a really bad idea. Opening a blog to comments is not just one big ego trip and it is unreasonable to retaliate against people who post things you don’t like. His comment may have been rude, but what you did really crossed the line.
Hunny Says:
March 3rd, 2006 at 12:59 pmVisit Hunny
Ali,
I respect that life has kept you busy, the most important thing we forget sometimes is family first! When I first started reading your Blog it took me back to my Highschool years and things I had experienced. I thank you for that, because it helped me forget what is going on now. Somedays it is hard to keep moving but thinking about your story helps with that! I look forward to reading more of it soon! Take care of yourself, and congrads on the new position!
Hunny
Danika Says:
March 3rd, 2006 at 1:00 pmVisit Danika
I’ve been waiting and refreshing every day. I’d love to read the end of the story. Please email me the password if you protect it.
dia Says:
March 4th, 2006 at 4:38 pmVisit dia
Sign me up!
jenib Says:
March 4th, 2006 at 5:52 pmVisit jenib
Hey there. Hope the pregnancy is going well. Shoot me an email with the pass if you decide to go that route. I have been checking everyday to see if you had made any new entries. I’m sorry that people’s comments are getting you down.
Jen
Serenity Says:
March 6th, 2006 at 9:55 amVisit Serenity
I would like to be included on password protected posts if you decide to do that.
One thing I’d like to say to some others: I agree if the writer states they will not post email addresses, they should not post them. However, just because someone has a site on the internet does not mean they must condone vitriolic comments by any joe schmoe who wanders by.
I can have an open house party but if one of the guests becomes rude, it does not mean that I have to let them stay there. I can say remark on their comment and tell them to leave. This is Alli’s site. Period.
6degrees Says:
March 17th, 2006 at 3:02 pmVisit 6degrees
As a father of one, step-dad to two, I totally understand your inability to post in a timeframe deemed “acceptable” to such assholes who prove themselves so arrogant as to condescend in such a manner…
As far as James Frey, see
The best of everything to you and yours! Don’t sweat the petty people! They’re petty.
6degrees Says:
March 17th, 2006 at 3:04 pmVisit 6degrees
Crap, I did that wrong… sorry, new to XHTML… I lost…
The link was supposed to be for the AbbyG’s blogspot. The link will still take you there…
CC Says:
May 14th, 2006 at 8:47 pmVisit CC
I know I sure believe and want to read the rest!!
Don Says:
October 29th, 2006 at 7:29 pmVisit Don
We don’t really know each other. But, I’m really proud of you. If I were to ever look up “indominatable” in the dictionary, they’d show your picture. Folks like you remind me the human spirit can never be denied it’s thirst for frredom, independance, and true justice. Thank you for telling me your story.
karlkem Says:
December 26th, 2006 at 12:01 pmVisit karlkem
Simple. Don’t tell any lies or “embelish” the truth and you will be fine. Your story sounds captivating enough as written on your blog (with the help of a professional editor who is actually paid for time, instead of competing with a family and everything else you have to worry about). Don’t try to make stuff up like he did. You shouldn’t need to. Or else be very honest about what was “embelished”.